College · Greek Life

Sorority Stereotypes

This past spring semester, I went through recruitment weekend to join a sorority on my campus. When I told my parents I was interested in accepting a bid I got a couple of different responses. My father, who didn’t really know what a sorority is, encouraged me to get involved on my campus and do whatever I wanted to. My mother as first was excited. Until she talked to my aunt, who informed her of all the sorority stereotypes that parents these days worry about when you go out for recruitment.

Greek life on my campus is pretty different than it is on other campuses. We don’t have houses that are specifically for the Greek Life community to live in. There isn’t a huge recruitment weekend of partying and hazing or any form of bullying for that matter. Greeks on my campus are actually looked up upon by the professors, for the most part. I understand the movies make sororities look bad, but as a member of one, just like high school, they are nothing like the movies make it out to be.

Here are some of the typical stereotypes people think of when they hear that you are in a sorority.

  • Paying for your friends.
    • Oh my is this a big one. Yes we have dues. Yes we have to pay them. No they are not spent on throwing parties. Yes they actually go towards our philanthropy work. Trust me, if I were paying for my friends that I’ve met since recruitment, it would be a whole lot more money.
  • Constant partying.
    • This one irks me simply because in my so far six months of being an initiated member have yet to go to a sorority party. For one, your chapter can get into a whole bunch of trouble if caught. For two, again, it’s just not like the movies. Just because you’re in a sorority doesn’t mean you party every night of the week, or even every weekend.
  • Getting bad grades.
    • I don’t really understand this one. Why do people associate getting bad grades when they are apart of a sorority which values intelligence? Even when receiving a bid, each sorority has their standards for intelligence with a minimum GPA requirement. My chapter has tutoring and hour requirements if you fall below the requirement during a semester, and not to mention academic probation.
  • Hazing
    • For some reason, years ago sororities were kind of known for hazing during the recruitment process. But it’s a new decade. Sorority recruitment is literally sitting down and getting to know each sorority’s core values and philanthropy work. You get to connect with some of the initiated girls and figure out if one of these sororities is the right place for you. The entire time, you are simply encouraged to just be yourself.
  • Initiation.
    • Since I just brought it up a little, initiation tends to be a huge one. People ask what the paddles are really used for. They ask if you’re going to get branded. Are you joining a cult? And so on. Initiation has a bad reputation pretty much just because the rituals are scared. No one knows what happens besides initiated members. This doesn’t mean that what happens during these rituals is hazing, bullying or anything of that sense, at all.

Now that I’ve discussed some of the simple and basic stereotypes, I hope that everyone can come to terms with how sororities actually work in this generation. They are barely ever what they are portrayed to be in the movies. Accepting a bid not only gets you involved on campus but also allows you to meet so many Greeks, even from other sororities, or fraternities. Being exposed to all these new people you tend to get even more involved. You met friends who are a part of this group or that group and they encourage you to get involved with it as well. Joining a sorority was just the beginning of my campus involvement.

I couldn’t be more thankful for my Greek family.

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date · fall · Relationships

Couple Date Ideas: Fall Edition

Keeping a tradition alive, as well as expanding upon last seasons Couple Date Ideas: Summer Edition blog post, back again this season is the new and improved Fall Edition!

Here is an entire list of wonderful adventures and date ideas for you and your significant other during this fall season!

  1. Apple picking
  2. Leaf raking (and playing in them)
  3. Mountain hiking (for the view!)
  4. Berry picking
  5. Go to a pumpkin patch
  6. Visit a sunflower field
  7. Carve pumpkins
  8. Make halloween themed treats (yay for Pinterest)
  9. Make a berry, apple, or pumpkin pie! (fresh from the orchards!)
  10. Corn maze
  11. Hay rides
  12. Costume shopping
  13. Scary movie (on the go!)
    • I read a blog that someone did this and brought blankets and their computer outside to a “scary” place to watch a scary movie!
  14. Have a picnic
  15. Make s’mores
  16. Attend a football game
  17. Go for a drive to see the fall foliage
  18. Pop popcorn on the cob
  19. Fall festival or county fair
  20. Build a blanket fort
  21. Go star gazing
  22. Watch the sunset or sunrise, or both!
  23. Have a campfire
  24. Halloween maze
  25. Use costumes, in the bedroom *wink, wink*
  26. Go to a haunted house
  27. Make caramel or candy apples (freshly picked)
  28. Go to the same place 3 Saturday’s in a row to see the leaves change color
  29. Find a ski area with lifts running in the fall to see the foliage
  30. Make a leaf collection and dry them in books
  31. Have a fall photoshoot
  32. Movie night
  33. Halloween party (with costumes!)
  34. Game night
  35. Go shopping for a new date outfit (he picks for her, she picks for him)
  36. Go to the gym together
  37. Pinterest some crafts to make with leaves
  38. Go tailgating
  39. Attend a concert
  40. Take a walk in the park
  41. Go on a bike ride
  42. Cook a meal together
  43. Have a paint night
  44. Apple cider or coffee house date!
  45. Workout together
  46. Go for a run, outside
  47. Complete a 5k
  48. Rollerskating
  49. Bowling
  50. Try a new restaurant
  51. Take a walk on the beach
  52. Play a game of frisbee
  53. Go geocaching
  54. $1 store mini gifts
    • This was another date idea I saw, each of you enter the store with the same amount of money and put together a little gift for each other
  55. Make cookies (for friends or family, or just to eat!)
  56. Go to the zoo
  57. Go to the aquarium
  58. Find a local flea market
  59. Walk around a pet store (that has animals!)
  60. See a drive-in movie
  61. Or just a regular movie date
  62. Or dinner and a movie, there are actually theaters that have dinner tables instead of cinema seats!
  63. Harvest festival
  64. Have a costume competition (with other couples)
  65. Horseback riding
  66. Volunteer together
  67. Take dance lessons

To be added upon as I think of more ideas! 

**Cover picture is not ours**

DIY · DIY Projects

DIY: Fabric hair bow

How to Make a Fabric Hair Bow
These instructions will be needed if a person would like to make their own hair bow accessory. Making your own hair bows is more cost effective than buying them in the stores. It also has an added bonus of being able to pick out any type of material that you wish. At the end of these instructions, you will have a beautiful fabric hair bow to wear to numerous occasions.

Materials Needed:
In order to make a hair bow you will need the following materials.
1. Fabric piece 12” by 10” (PIECE ONE)
2. Fabric piece 2” by 5” (PIECE TWO)
3. Hot Glue Gun- used to glue pieces together and attach the clip
4. Hot Glue Sticks- to hold the parts together
5. Napkin- placed under the hot glue gun for easy clean up
6. Ruler- used to measure the size fabric you will need
7. Scissors- used to cut the fabric
8. Clip- preferably a barrette- attached to the back of the bow
9. Pen or pencil- used to mark where to cut
Here are the steps:
1. Take the ruler and measure out a piece of fabric that measures that is 12” by 10”. You will use this piece as the main part of the bow. Use your pen or pencil to mark lines where you will cut in the steps following. Make sure you make the lines on the back of the fabric so it will not be seen in the final product. Also, write lightly so the pen doesn’t bleed through the fabric. We will call this piece PIECE ONE.
2. Measure a small piece with the ruler that is 2” by 5”. This piece will be used to wrap around the center of the bow. It also doubles as security for the clip. Mark the sizes with your pen or pencil as done in step 1. We will call this PIECE TWO.
Note: if you have a piece of fabric with the white seam on the edge, you may include this in your measurement as it will not be seen on the bow.
3. Next, take your scissors and cut of both pieces of fabric. Make sure you cut straight on the lines you drew in the first steps.
4. Plug in your hot glue gun and give it time to get hot.
5. Place the hot glue gun on top of a napkin to the side.

6. Make sure there is a hot glue stick in the glue gun.
7. Find PIECE ONE and place it in front of you with the back of the fabric facing upwards and the 12” side parallel to your body.
Note: Typically, the back of fabric has less of a color than the front and appears a bit white.
8. Fold down the top of the fabric in half leaving an equal amount of the fabric on the bottom unfolded. We will call this PART A. Now you will see about of the two inches on the of the fabric.
9. Fold up the bottom (PART B) half until it meets the top folded piece in the middle (PART A). Now you should only see a minimal space of the back of the fabric where the two folds meet. This step is important to prevent fraying of the fabric.
10. Take the ends (left side- PART C and right side- PART D) of the fabric and fold them into the middle until they overlap about a quarter of an inch with PART C on the bottom and PART D on the top.
11. Lift up PART D. Carefully use the hot glue gun to apply hot glue on PART C along the edge of the fabric going DOWN.
12. Quickly overlap PART D back over PART C. Be sure that the overlap does not exceed a quarter of an inch before placing it down. Put this piece to the side.
13. Next, take PIECE TWO and lay it in front of you with the back up. Make sure the fabric is in front of you with the short side parallel to your body.
14. As done in step 8, fold the two long sides of the fabric into the middle until they overlap no more than a quarter of an inch. We will call the left side PART E and the right side we will call PART F. This overlap is better if the pieces are the least overlapped so try to get it as close as you can.
15. Lift up PART F. Carefully pick up the glue gun, apply small dots of glue every inch to PART E along the edge of the fabric until you reach the bottom.
16. Quickly press PART F back on top of PART E. Again, make sure you get this so it overlaps but there isn’t much fabric that passes where the glue is.
17. Find PIECE ONE and place it in front of you so the back (the side that is hot glued together- we will call this SIDE ONE) is facing you with the strip of glue is perpendicular to you.
18. Fold from the top of the fabric down “accordion” style, shown in figure 1, until you reach the bottom. You should fold the piece 5 times.
19. Pick up the bow pinching the middle.
20. Examine the look of the bow and make sure that it looks alright the way it is folded. You may have to fold it a few times before you get a fold that you like. Be patient!
21. Once you have the bow the way you like it, pick up PIECE TWO. This piece is going to wrap around the center of the bow. On the back of the bow that you hot glued together, put a dab on hot glue.
22. Immediately after, attach PIECE TWO to the glue dab. Make sure PIECE TWO is placed onto the glue with the glued side to the glue on the back of the bow.
23. Wrap PIECE TWO up and around the bow to the back side.
24. Find the clip. Carefully put a line of glue across the back of the bow on top of where you just glued PIECE TWO.
25. Put the CLIP back side down into the glue. The clip should look like this on the back of the bow.
26. Next, take PIECE TWO and pull it through the clip. Make sure to push it through the hole closest to where the clip is glued.
27. On the back of the bow, place a short line the width of PIECE TWO right next to the clip.
28. Secure PIECE TWO in the glue
29. Cut the remaining fabric with scissors.
Note: If PIECE TWO is lifting up, put a dag of glue inside it and press it down.
30. Unplug the glue gun and clean up your materials.

Congratulations! You have made your own personalized fabric bow! The great part about this is the various fabrics you can choose from to match everything in your closet! Remember to model your fabulous new bow at any event or occasion you wish!

fall · Our Thoughts

Things to look forward to this fall

The time most people look forward to every year has finally come….Fall. Personally, I’m a summer girl. But Fall is a close second! Just like any other season, Fall comes with many activities that people do each year. Here’s what I look forward to in Fall!

1. Apple picking

 I don’t know what it is about personally picking apples that’s so enjoyable. I try to do it every year anyway!

2. Going to a pumpkin patch

I get way more excited about going to a pumpkin patch and picking out a pumpkin than I should. I always like to make sure my pumpkin is perfectly round. It makes it perfect for carving!

3. Carving pumpkins 

Honestly, I get really frustrated while I carve pumpkins because I’m a perfectionist and I tend to mess up a lot. But I still like doing it, especially with friends and family.

4. Going to haunted houses

I’ve only gone to one haunted thing before. I plan on going again this year. I don’t know why getting scared to death is fun but, it is!

5. Halloween

Okay okay…you’re going to think I’m weird. But, I’ve never celebrated Halloween! My family never got into it. I do know the majority of people love it! I’ve always wanted to dress up and go trick or treating. But, I’m 20 now so it’s not as acceptable. 

6. Sweater weather

I love shorts and tank tops. But, sweaters and leggings are probably the most comfortable things to wear. And fashionable!

7. Changing of the leaves

I love love love how beautiful the trees are in the beginning of fall. Shades of red, orange, and yellow everywhere. I’m thankful I live in an area that has a lot of woods!

8. Thanksgiving

I mean…who doesn’t love stuffing your face with turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, corn, and various other foods and then suffering from a food coma afterwards? I always overeat on thanksgiving. I can’t help it! I HAVE to eat one piece of every pie.

College · Life's Milestones

Since going to college…

This past year, I became a freshman in college. A lot has changed in just a short eight months and time has definitely passed by way too quickly. Simultaneously, I feel as though I have accomplished and grown so much in this short time span. Here are some of the things I have notices that changed after my first year in college.

Since going to college… I have become more independent. I always have been more of an independent person, but being away from my parents I could only rely on myself.

Since going to college… I have come out of my shell (a lot) more. Since I was little, I’ve always been a quiet person, shy as they call it. But on campus it seems that I am a completely different person than I was growing up, which isn’t a bad thing.

Since going to college… I have made so many new friends. I struggled with friends in high school so when it came to college I was pretty nervous about making friends that actually treated me well. But it turns out, thankfully, that most of the people you met in college are grown up and mature, unlike high school friends.

Since going to college… I have learned how to manage a busy schedule. Let’s be real, this is the first time you ever have to worry about school, eating three times a day and doing your laundry. Multitasking is definitely a skill that you’ll need in the future.

Since going to college… I have strived to do well in all my classes. I was warned that college courses are a bit harder than high school courses are, so I made sure I was well prepared for all of my exams, which paid off in the end when I made the Dean’s List all year!

Since going to college… I have gotten involved and tried many new things. I’ve always been apprehensive to try new things or get involved in a group where I didn’t know anyone. In college, I pushed myself to get involved and try new things.

Since going to college… I have become less of a picky eater. Dining food isn’t always the greatest and before coming to college I didn’t eat many foods. But the dining halls don’t cater to each person so, I had to try the food they had available to me.

Since going to college… I have become more of an adult. I am typically a responsible, trust-worthy person, but when I say I have become more of an adult I mean that I have learned how to manage my own time, and do it wisely.

Lastly,

Since going to college… I have found my second home. Being on my own was originally a scary thought for me. But I know now that I have found my second home on campus. I also know that I am where I am supposed to be, doing what I am destined to do.

College · life

Quotes to Live by

With then school year approaching quickly, there’s one thing that everyone shares in common, a lack of motivation. Especially when it comes to school work. Or actual work. Or just doing anything in general. I’ve found that something that inspires me to get what I need done is reading motivational quotes. So here are all the quotes I have pinned on my “Quotes to Live by” Pinterest Board.

You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, let go & see what happens.

If life can remove someone you never dreamed of losing, it can replace them with someone you never dreamt of having.

You lose yourself trying to hold on to someone who doesn’t care about losing you.

Mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before.

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.

Live for the moments you can’t put into words.

Sometimes when things are falling apart, they may actually be falling into place .

When it rains, look for rainbows. When it’s dark, look for stars.

First, think. Second, believe. Third, dream. And finally, dare. – Walt Disney

The struggle you are in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.

Train your mind to see the good in everything.

Be brave enough to travel the unknown path, and learn what you are capable of.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Memories take us back, dreams take us forward.

But we’re all scared to say the things worth saying..

It’s going to be hard, but hard is not impossible.

If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies. -Unknown

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and focus on what could go right.

Don’t be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams.  -Ralph Waldo Emmerson

Those who do not believe in magic will never find it.

Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly. -Proverb

Whatever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy.

Ever single thing that has ever happened in your life is prepping you for a moment that has yet to come. -Unknown

Believe you can &  you’re halfway there. – Theodore Roosevelt

Sometimes there is no next time, no second chance, no time out. Sometimes it is now or never.

One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.

Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start now and make a brand new ending. -Carl Bard

Make today count, you’ll never get it back.

Take chances when you’re young so that you can tell stories when you’re old.

Always find time for the things that make you feel happy to be alive.

Life is about moments: don’t wait for them, create them.

You may not always end up where you thought you were going. But you will always end up where you are meant to be.

The moment when you want o quit is the moment you need to keep pushing.

Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.

Let today be the start of something new.

When was the last time you didi something for the first time?

You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

Be somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody. – Kid President

You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.

Life is a like a camera, you focus on what’s important, capture the good times, develop from the negative and if things don’t work out take another shot.

Never do tomorrow what you can do today. Procrastination is the thief of time.

If it were easy, everyone would do it.

Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.

Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning to dance in the rain.

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

Good things come to those who wait but the best things come to those who do.

If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of our lives. – Lemony Snicker

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Why is #RelationshipGoals a Thing?

According to Urban Dictionary, “Relationship Goals” is defined as follows…

  1. “When two people are in a relationship and girls envy them, usually a celebrity couple or popular couple in high school”
  2. “A couple who are the best couple out there. They are the power couple. Everyone wants to be like them”
  3. “The most F’ed up way of saying “I want a relationship like theirs.””

At first, using the hashtag was pretty cute and sweet. It showed an admiration for a couple. It was paired with realistic goals. The issue that I have with the hashtag now is that the images or expectations its used for. Expensive gifts like make up and designer outfits left out on a bed with a sign “Put this on, I’ll pick you up at 8”. Why are people, majority of them being females, so materialistic in relationships today? Today you are in for a treat as I rant about why #RelationshipGoals is probably the worst hashtag to hit twitter today.

To start this blog, I began by google image searching relationship goals. These are some of the images I found on the first page of my google search. Let’s start with these.

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Okay, this #RelationshipGoal isn’t too terrible, I must say. This is one of the few I found in my search that was actually for the guy in the relationship. Most of the images you find online are from the guy in the relationship for the girl. This seems to be just a fun way to welcome your man home from work, not much money spent, not really materialistic, just having a Nerf gun war over who makes dinner.
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This is #RelationshipGoal what I have an issue with. While it is sweet for your man to go out and pick you a nice outfit and take you out to dinner, the chances of it actually happening? Very little. It’s causing girls to want their man to do this, which sets the expectations really high just to be (most likely) let down.

images-2#RelationshipGoal right? Every girl wants their man to buy them something in that little blue box from Tiffany & Co. Here’s the problem, it’s crazy expensive! Especially in today’s economy there isn’t much extra money hanging around to surprise your girl with a $300 necklace, or ring, or brand new car (as shown in the next photo)

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Sure being successful in life is something everyone wants. The thing that bothers me is just how materialistic people are. Money doesn’t buy happiness in a relationship. Material objects don’t make you fall in love, or stay in love. You don’t need to have fancy expensive cars to be a successful couple. To be a successful couple all you need to do is love and cherish each other.

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I know that this #RelationshipGoal is usually more directed towards the ladies. However, LADIES. You don’t need long lovey text messages from your man that tell you how he feels about you. You should already know his feelings towards you just by the way he looks at you or talks to you in person. A text message is basically meaningless if he doesn’t say or do it in person to prove it to you, anyone can say something over a text, it takes more to say it in person face to face.

text 1Alright, now this one just seems ridiculous to me. The chances of this exact conversation happening is extremely slim. Not to mention, just plan scripted and awkward? Anyone else feel that way?

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Here’s something that we definitely need to talk about. Calling your man “Daddy” has been a trend lately. A trend that I for one think is so disturbing and disgusting. And as the above picture shows, dangerous. There are a million other pet names to call your man, please find one that’s different than the person who helped create you.

The bottom line I’m trying to get across is that you shouldn’t expect these unrealistic situations to happen in your relationship. Guys can’t read your mind. The only #RelationshipGoals you should have are being in a relationship that makes you happy and being with someone who makes you into a better person. Sure you can be successful in life while being happy but that’s a life goal, not a #RelationshipGoal.

Unknown

Holidays

9.11.2001.

If the numbers in the title of this post look like some type of morse code to you, it is simply because you’re young. You weren’t old enough to remember what had happened, or possibly you weren’t even born yet, on this day fifteen years ago. I was four, and although I didn’t quite know or understand what was happening at the time, i drew a picture of what I had seen. Two towers, a plane, fire, black circles falling from the sky.

We don’t really want to say much on this blog and more so have it as a time of silence to remember all those who were lost in the tragedy of 9.11.

We thought that the perfect way to approach this is with quotes from survivors, family members, important leaders and those who witnessed the event.

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Watch this short video 

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If you have the time, please take 40 or so minutes to watch this documentary of reports from the air.

advice · life · Our Thoughts

How I deal with Stress

Lately, I’ve had to deal with more stress than I probably ever had to deal with all at once. Working twice as many hours than normal, friend drama, dog dying, mom in the hospital, 1 of 2 cars breaking down… It’s a lot for me, personally, to handle. Everyone has their own way of dealing with stress. Here are some of my ways!
1. Breathe.

Sometimes, you just get so caught up in the stress and are so overwhelmed that you just forget to breathe. It’s important to just sit down and take deep breaths. When I’m feeling really stressed, I start breathing inadequately and have to just calm myself and breathe.

2. Pray.

Personally, as a Christian, praying is a huge factor in keeping me sane. There’s always a feeling of peace when I pray. Reading the bible helps me as well!

3. Rant.

Getting is all out usually helps. At least for the time being. My poor boyfriend has to listen to me rant a lot because I’m always stressing about something. But, he’s always there to listen and tries to do the best he can to help the situation. Along with my two Twitter best friends. Thankful for all of them.

4. Watch Netflix.

I’ll use any excuse to binge watch Netflix. But, it does help keep my mind off of the things I’m stressing about! Or, depending on the show, makes me more stressed. I get so invested in shows!

5. Take a nap.

Sometimes all I need is some sleep. I get all mentally and physically exhausted and just need to turn off my mind for a little while.

6. Listen to Disney Music.

I’m a kid at heart! How can you be sad or stressed while listening to Disney songs? If you’re stressed, you just have to try and LET IT GO LET IT GOOOOOO! (Sorry, couldn’t help myself)

7. Think of all the good things in my life.

I especially try and think about how amazing the people in my life are. I have friends and family who support me and are always there for me. Words truly can’t describe how thankful I am for all of them. Thinking of the positive things really does help. It may not take away the problem, but it at least helps you not go completely mad.
I hope that whatever you are going through, you are able to find ways to help you cope with the stress!