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It’s a choice.

A year and a half,

18 months,

546 days,

13,104 hours,

786,240 minutes,

47,174,400 seconds,

Filled with countless adventures, kisses, and memories.

As you could probably guess, today marks one and a half years since I started dating my best friend. When I first met my boyfriend about 20 months ago, I wasn’t expecting a relationship. I was a freshman in college and for the first time in a while, I wanted to just enjoy life and make friends, focusing on myself and my grades in school. After all, they say college relationships never work out, right? I certainly wasn’t focused on finding a boyfriend. But, everything happens for a reason, right? And sometimes the best things in life are ones that you don’t expect will happen in the first place.

It’s currently 11:53 at night, I’m on Skype with that same boy I met in December, twenty months ago, as I was making cookies in the dorm kitchen with some of my friends. Have you ever met someone and felt immediately attracted to them? And I don’t mean attracted in a physical way. I mean, attracted as in something was destined to happen and that’s why they walked in that door. That’s why you happened to be making cookies at one in the morning. That’s why you weren’t in your dorm building, but instead across campus. Well this was one of those moments.

For the first time in years, I was single, flirty, and having fun enjoying whatever life threw at me. When he walked in that door, a guy I started to talk to a couple days prior had just left. What great timing. We made the cookies and he left. A few days later, I met my friend in a dining hall to get a smoothie with the other boy I was talking to. She brought along her friend, the boy we had made cookies with just a few days before. The second those two boys were in a room together was another one of those meant-to-be, destined moments. I actually ended up sending a snap chat to Squishy of the boy I was crushing on. Can you guess which one it was? Cookie boy or Smoothie boy?

If you answered Cookie boy, you guessed right! I invited them up to my dorm room and after a while, the smoothie boy left (thank goodness). And when Cookie boy left, he forgot his phone. Spoiler alert: I found out months later that he forgot it on purpose! He had left it there so that he would have an excuse to come back, and get my number. Except, instead I ended up asking him to add me on snapchat. During winter break, we snap chatted occasionally.

When we moved back to school in January, I had put in a room change request so that I would be able to room with my best friend. But it also happened to be right down the hall from Cookie boy. From there, the rest is predictable.

We hung out, pretty much every day, since we lived right down the hall. We ate meals together, did homework together, played monopoly at one in the morning, etc. All of the normal college things. This happened for about a month before we had officially started dating.

This boy has been there with me through everything since our freshman year of college. We are now going into our junior year. Of course we’ve had some bumps in the road along the way, but something magical made everything come together in the end. Every relationship has little hiccups. Every relationship has its share of good and bad times. We have not been some miraculous exception to that. However, we have chosen to try and work to get through whatever get thrown at us.

Relationships are not so much destined to be with some happily ever after. There’s no such thing as fairytales.  But there is such thing as choosing to be with each other even at the worst times. Relationships are commitments to each other. Commitments to care about each other and love each other through the good and bad times.

I think that this is the reason why Cody and I were “destined to be together”. For if I didn’t have him, I wouldn’t have had the support, motivation and love that got me through the past year and a half. And I have definitely been there for him in the times when he has needed me. It’s a choice. It’s a commitment. He has definitely come to be my best friend and my boyfriend.

And yes, it is love.

P.S. College relationships work if you want them too.

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Simple happinesses

Today’s blog though isn’t exactly specifically my relationship, but something that I have come to learn about happiness as a result of it.

I wanted to start this blog off with a little quote,

“I think we like to complicate things when it is really quite simple; find what it is that makes you happy and who it is that makes you happy and you’re set”. -Unknown

The reason I picked this quote in particular is because today I wanted to talk about happiness. Not really just happiness as a whole, but simple happiness. 

Not really sure what that means? No worries, if you don’t quite understand now I’m sure you will by the end. It’s really a “simple” concept. See what I did there?

Happy is really a pretty simple definition actually. From the dictionary,

hap·py   ˈhapē/

adjective

 1. feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.

Happiness however? It’s kind of more complex, although the definition doesn’t really show its complexity.

hap·pi·ness   ˈhapēnəs/

noun

noun: happiness; plural noun: happinesses

1. the state of being happy.

The reason I say it is more complex is because there are countless things that can make you happy. It could be your family, friends, pets, significant other and so on. The list is endless. The problem is that we don’t realize all of the things that make us happy because most of them are so simple. These simple happinesses get lost in a sea of reasons that you are unhappy. This is because people tend to focus more on the negatives in life instead of the positives. So today, I want to talk about the positive, simple happinesses you can find in your life.

What are some of these simple happinesses that I am talking about? To list some of the many my relationship has come to show me,

I have found happiness in his touch, his voice, his smile. The way he takes my hand and kisses it. How he makes the perfect cuddling partner.

I have found happiness in spending time together, no matter how short it may be. The way he comes to see me after a long day of work. How he acts when he’s super duper tired.

I have found happiness in the way I look at him and the way he looks back at me. How he squeezes me, just because he can. The way that he comes up behind me and hugs or kisses me.

I have found happiness in doing new things and exploring new places together. The way he thinks he knows where we are, when actually we are pretty lost in the woods. And how he won’t admit we’re lost.

I have found happiness in the way he holds me. The cute little things he does for me, like carry me over puddles so my shoes don’t get wet. 

I have found happiness driving around in his car singing as loud as we can. How he reminds me to take cheesy pictures, but still makes fun of how cheesy they may be.

I have found happiness in simple trips to the grocery stores, or going to a shopping mall just to look around. The way that he carefully picks out everything he buys.

I have found happiness in practically everything since I have started dating him. The way that we can enjoy anything we do simply because we love being together. 

I have found happiness in him. 

This is where the quote I started off with comes into play. Find what it is that makes you happy. For me, this would have to be all of these simple happinesses in little things that I’ve found in my relationship with him. Find who it is that makes you happy. Although obvious, for me, the one who makes me happy would be my wonderful boyfriend. When I am with him, nothing else in the world exists.

My point with this blog is not to get caught up in all the bad things happening all the time. Instead, go out and do something that makes you realize how beautiful life is. Enjoy every second that you possibly can because you surely don’t get to go back in time to do it over. Never take someone, or something, that makes you happy for granted because it could be gone in an instant.

Mostly, the things I found that made me happy were ones that you just don’t look at in the big septum of life, but you should. Every little, simple thing adds up on the list to make you realize what an amazing day you had looking back. Focus on the things that make you happy and you’ll be set.

Happy eight months to my incredible boyfriend❤️ I can’t imagine where I’d be if I never met you. Thank you for being your wonderful self and never ceasing to make me smile and laugh. 

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8 Tips for Boyfriends

Every girl is different with what they do and do not like in a relationship. Some girls are needy and some girls need their space. Some girls like receiving gifts and some girls would rather have affection.

I’m going to list some basic tips that MOST girls like!

1. Text back fast

This one is for the girls who are needy (like myself). Girls like to know that they’re a top priority. If you aren’t really doing anything, just be sure to text your girl often! I know you can’t always text back in a quick manner. Which brings me to my next tip.

2. Let her know when you’re busy

This is one thing that really irks me. Don’t just drop from the face of the earth randomly. Let your girl know when you won’t be able to talk! Most girls appreciate this a lot. I know I do.

3. Buy her flowers

I loooove receiving flowers. I always think of my boyfriend whenever I look at them. They’re so pretty and smell really good. I love that it’s an old fashioned gesture that’s still around today. It’s so simple but thoughtful.

4. We enjoy the simplest of things

We don’t always need extravagant dates or gifts. Pack a lunch and take her on a picnic, dress like bums, get some snacks and binge watch Netflix all day, take her to the drive-in theater, etc. It really doesn’t take much to make us happy (at least it shouldn’t).

5. Take her on a surprise date

A fancy date is good every once in a while too! Tell your girl to put on her nicest dress and look all dolled up but don’t tell her what you’re going to do. Take her to a fancy restaurant and treat her like the queen she is. Now, surprise dates don’t have to be fancy or expensive. They can be anything you want them to be!

6. Send long paragraphs via text

I love receiving long paragraphs from my boyfriend that tell me how much I mean to him. It can make my bad day good and my good day great. It just lets me know that he is thinking of me. This goes to girlfriends too! Send your man a long paragraph!

7. Send a love letter

People don’t do this that often nowadays. But I think writing a love letter means so much. You’re taking the time out of your day to sit down and hand write your love. It’s just really sweet.

8. Listen to her

I know us girls sometimes just ramble on. But do you know how many points you gain when your girl is talking to you about something and then you later mention something about what she said? A lot. You are her best friend and she just wants to tell you everything. Try to be interested in what she’s saying.

So girls, show this to your boyfriends if you feel he is slacking in some of these areas! Every girl deserves to be treated like a queen.

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Maybe He Could Be The One

I have been dating my boyfriend, we will call him C, for five months (today). The past five months have no doubt been filled with many adventures, cuddle sessions, cheesy (but adorable) pictures and of course, plenty of smiles and laughs. A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog called 15 Traits I Wanted in a Boyfriend after I came to the realization that my boyfriend had been everything I was waiting and looking for.

About a week ago I was talking to my brother about C when he asked me “So, is he The One? My response being “Maybe” (hence the title of this blog today). Since my brother said this I’ve found myself wondering could he actually be The One? Since we have only been together for five months, I really hadn’t thought too far into the future until now and didn’t want to rush our relationship, and I still don’t. I always had a gut feeling that this relationship was something different, in a good way of course.

Talking to my best friend, O, who writes on this blog with me, this past week I have come to realize that it is absolutely possible that C could be The One, not to scare him. I know that we’ve only been together for a short time but there are just some things that honestly make me think we could end up being together for a lot longer. Not to jinx our relationship, I just want to express how I’m feeling about him and just all around our relationship that makes me think that maybe, he could be The One. 

To start off, C and I have pretty similar life styles. Growing up we both went camping with our families and still do today. I’m not exactly as adventurous and daring as he is, however, that’s precisely what I need in a significant other. Someone who encourages me to try new things, face my fears and tackle my bucket list with. I find it pretty funny that despite living about thirty five minutes away from each other our entire lives, he and his sister have been driving past my house for years heading to his sister’s cheerleading practice. It’s such a small world. Of course, I never would have met him had we not attended the same college and lived in the same building our freshman year.

Another similarity is simply put, he doesn’t have everything. His parents don’t pay for everything and anything and he’s definitely not spoiled. He didn’t grow up in a perfectly decorated cookie cutter home, neither did I. He shares a room with his younger brother, I once shared a room with my mom and sister. He has to sort of manage his own money and save it as I do. We both have our priorities set when it comes to spending money. I love that we don’t have to spend a fortune on a fancy date to enjoy being with each other. Everyone has heard of the classic expression that “Actions speak louder than words” and our relationship is proof of this. We don’t need to be constantly texting or talking all day every day. We both have jobs and know that some days we aren’t able to talk much. But don’t worry because his actions when we are together mean more to me than any combination of words he could text me. Money doesn’t buy happiness. Material objects don’t make you fall in love with someone.

To go along with his home life, family is important to him. I have a very, very, very large, overbearing, loud family but my crazy family is everything to me. I just believe that it is one of the most important factors in a relationship and you and your partner have the same values. We both value having a family that we are close with and spend time with. C has three younger siblings and if I were them I would look up to him as one of my role models for sure as I do my older siblings. He helps out one of his sisters by volunteering to help her raise money for cheerleading. He helps clean his brothers gymnastic gym so they can afford to pay for his lessons. And not to mention, the way he treats his little sister is just the cutest to watch. Everyone knows that a guy who is good with kids melts a girls heart. If he does so much for his siblings now you can’t help but picture how someday he would treat his own little family.

All around C is such a compassionate person. From the very beginning of our relationship he already knew how to tell when something was bothering me. He is supportive and genuinely cares about how I feel. He never lets me get away with just saying nothing when something is wrong. He’s intelligent, ambitious, dedicated. He has goals in life. He’s funny. He makes me smile and laugh everyday. There isn’t a single boring moment with him from singing and dancing in the car to exploring some new place we haven’t been. There hasn’t been a single day where he hasn’t made my day since we started dating. We go on really simple dates and we still manage to have fun together. I can never get enough time with him and dread the moment he has to go back home. I could go on and on about how wonderful he is both as a person, big brother, friend and a boyfriend. I wouldn’t mind one bit spending more than a few years or possibly a lifetime with him.

How could I not see myself with him or wonder if  maybe he could be the one when I start to think about everything I’ve come to love about him over the past five months. I don’t think that there’s anyone else who knows more about me than him. He knows about my past, present, and what I want in the future. I’ve never been so comfortable and open with a person in such a short span of time as I am with him. He has come to learn about all the little quirks about me. He knows all of my secrets and embarrassing stories. Some how he manages to put up with my crazy antics and still like, even love, me. People say to marry your best friend and as cheesy as it is, he is my best friend.

So,

Maybe He Could Be The One…

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