Family

Dear Cancer

Dear Cancer,

How can you take so many people’s lives and not be affected by any of it? How can you refuse or respond treatment or any help? Can you not see how hard they are trying rid themselves of you? Don’t you have anything better to do than infest our bodies until we can’t take anymore? Don’t you ever hate yourself for you actions or do you just not feel any guilt for everything you put people through? Don’t you have any emotions or feelings for others or are you really that selfish that you have to feed off of other people? How can you live with yourself? Honestly.

Sincerely,
The Niece of an Uncle who has Cancer

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Family

Welcome to the World

THIS IS NOT A DRILL.

I REPEAT THIS IS NOT A DRILL.

My brother and his wife have been expecting a baby and today might be the day that he enters this wonderful world! Will he be born on Halloween? We will see!

So in the spirit of welcoming my fifth nephew into the world within the next probably 24 hours…

5 things that I love about being an aunt.

  1. There’s always someone to make you smile.
    • My nephews are so silly and never fail to make me laugh and smile. They shake their booty or make funny faces that you can’t help but love. A baby smiling and laughing at you will never fail to make you smile. You can never go wrong with some cuddles.
  2. They make you feel like a kid again. 
    • I use them as an excuse to go trick or treating, since it isn’t acceptable for nineteen year olds to do so. They make me pretend to be ninja turtles or dinosaurs that run around the house roaring. Because you can’t get away with doing these things alone.
  3. You have a buddy for life. 
    • Well at least until they start believing that you have cooties anyways. I’m a young aunt and being so young I feel brings me closer to my nephews. I get to be the fun aunt that plays and runs around with them. My nephews always ask me to have sleepovers with them at their house.
  4. You can spoil them.
    • Lets be real, every auntie has purchased a onesie that says “Cool like my Auntie” or “I love my Aunt”. Why? Just because you can. It probably literally in the job description of being an aunt to be honest.
  5. You get the best hugs. 
    • Again, assuming that they don’t think you have cooties. In any other case, all you have to do is hold out your arms and little hands will soon be wrapped around you. Little kids are the definition of endless love.

Welcome to the world Baby J, I can’t wait to meet you.

I love you already.

Love, Auntie

 

UPDATE: 

Baby J was born November 1st, 2016 at 9:59 am weighing 6 pounds 15 ounces at 20 inches long. He has already wrapped me around his little fingers. 

College · Family · Friends

7 Things That get you Through the Semester

With the first month or so of being back to your college coming to an end soon, you may be starting to wonder when will it be over? Well, here’s a news flash, college is a lengthy process. If you want a degree, you’re looking at around four years at this place.

But have no fear!

Here’s a list of 7 things that can help you survive the rest of the semester.

  1. Your close friends. Over the course of my last semester, my friends were unbelievably supportive. They understood when I needed to stay in my dorm and work on a paper and when I was too stressed out to focus on doing any work. You definitely meet some of your best friends in college.
  2. Your man. Not everyone has a boyfriend, I know. But since I started dating my boyfriend in my second semester, he has been there for me at one in the morning when I needed help writing my final paper or had some sort of mental break down and just needed to talk. Boyfriends are great when you need to talk about things you don’t want to discuss with your girls.
  3. NETFLIX. Oh my gosh is this one of the biggest waste of time while simultaneously being the best thing invented yet. You can literally binge watch every season of all your favorite TV shows. Or have a movie marathon. Just make sure that you complete your assignments at some point, preferably before they are due.
  4. Your girls or guys. Here’s a group of people that know how to cheer you up and get your mind off of things when you need it. They’ll be there at ten in the morning to make cookies with you and eat chocolate.
  5. Your roomie. I get that not everyone is super close with their roommate. For me, I dormed with my best friend. We had rituals to wobble every Wednesday, have pasta dinners on Wednesday’s, taco Tuesday’s and trekked through a winter storms to stock up on food instead of going to the dining halls.
  6. Late night snacks and delivery. Nothing is better than ordering Chinese food or pizza at midnight. Or making a bag of popcorn in the microwave. Really just any type of midnight snack is a savior so stock up!
  7. Your family. Obviously your family had been one of your biggest fan clubs for years, literally since birth. No one can replace the friends that have no choice but to be there for you. Family by chance. Friends by choice.

There are plenty of other things that will help you to survive the semester. Dining halls that stay open late. Extended library hours during finals weeks. Study lounges. Club involvement. This list was just a few of the (mainly) people that will be there when you need it the most.

An Open Letter To.... · Family

An Open Letter to my Brother as he gets Married

To My Big Brother,

Today is the long awaited day that you will be marrying the love of your life.

Today is the first day of your forever together and I could not be any more happy for you.

You’ve had more than your fair share of difficult times and rough relationships. It is because of these rough times that I look up to you. You never ceased to stop being the wonderful person you are despite the hardest of times. You have been there for me through everything, literally since the day I was born. I want to thank you for being the best big brother any little sister could hope for.

Being a big brother, I know there was a lot of stress on you to be someone I would look up to, and trust me, I do. Not only have you been one of my biggest supporters in life but you have also been one of my best friends. You have always encouraged me to do my best and be the best person I could possibly be.

Throughout the past nineteen years of my life, you have always managed to be there for me no matter what or where you were in your life, which was obviously much different than anything I could understand since you’re older. I wanted to take a moment to thank you for this and thank you for being there for me twenty-four seven.

Back to today. Here it goes in the books, another successful marriage that began from a dating website. 

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. When you first introduced the family to her, I could tell by the look in your eyes that she was going to be something special. I’ve had the privilege to watch you experience your dating years throughout high school and college. But this? This was something different, I knew that she was the one for you not long after you started dating. She fits so well with you and you both have similar lifestyles.

I can tell that you are finally truly happy with your life simply by the way you look at her and treat her. I can only hope that one day in the far away future that I will be able to find a man who treats me as you treat her. I am so happy for you that you have at last found the woman you want to spend your life with.

I have been waiting for this day all year since you proposed. I am so honored to be in your wedding and can’t wait to share the love with you on your wedding day.  

I love you, Big Brother

Your Little Sister

Family · Life's Milestones

Everything Will Change

At the young age of ten, I became an Auntie for the very first time. Obviously because of my young age, I was the only person in my friend group who was going to be an aunt in the near future and I was beyond excited. I have always loved babies and young kids and couldn’t wait to have another baby in the family. Since I am the youngest child, having a new baby around was going to give me the opportunity to have the (close enough) little brother or sister I never had. Little did I know was that this little baby was going to make one of the biggest impact on my life. Not everyone gets to become an aunt and definitely a smaller part of those become an aunt at such a young age.

I always tended to be a bit of a brat when it came to getting what I wanted and I wanted to have a niece. Now imagine my reaction when my brother informed me that I was going to have a nephew. Exactly, not entirely thrilled, in fact, I almost kicked my mother in the face because I was so upset. This was probably one of my first lessons in becoming an aunt, you get what you get (and you don’t get upset).

My second lesson in Auntie-ing, as I call it, was sharing. Being the youngest child, I never really had to deal with sharing my possessions and my toys. I never actually noticed how bad at sharing I was until my nephew hit the age when he knew how to share with me. It was embarrassing at the least when my four year old nephew told everyone that his auntie didn’t share with him, ever. Of course, he asked for it when he dropped my Ipod Touch and shattered the screen.

Back to today, over the course of the past nine years, a lot has changed. First off, not only do I have one nephew, but I have fiveI tend to joke around that it’s all because I kicked my mother in the face and Karma is out to get me. Nonetheless, despite not having a niece, I have learned the most valuable lesson from having nephews. You’ll love them just the same. It never really mattered what the gender was. No matter what, you’ll hold that baby for the first time and instantly fall in love. How could you not? Seeing them there completely dependent and trusting on you to hold them and keep them safe? There is no better feeling than knowing that this baby is going to grow up someday and hopefully look up to everything that you do.

In that moment, you realize just how important it is for you to be a great role model for this little baby. It took me a little while before realizing that my nephew was watching everything I did and learning from it. But when I did finally come to this realization, everything changed. It was then, as a freshman in high school, I started to strive to leave a path for my nephews to follow in my footsteps. I tried my absolute hardest to get good grades. I realized that my hardest wasn’t always going to be enough. I came to learn how to face really difficult situations and overcome some honestly terrible high school drama.

The first three years of high school were by far the worst years of my life. But they made me stronger as a person. In my last year of high school, I decided to make a huge change by facing the obstacles I had pushed to the side. I got more involved. I joined a new group after school. I made new friends, who didn’t start drama. I put forth every ounce I had to end my high school career on a positive note and learn from the negatives.

And my nephews were by my side through everything.

They were there to make me smile, even if they didn’t know it at the time.

They were there to push me to be a better person.

They were there to motivate me to do my best.

They were there to make me do silly things just to see their cute smiles.

They were there to give me comforting hugs.

They were there to be my prom dates when I didn’t have one.

They were there to see my walk across the stage and receive my diploma.

And yes, I was looking for them first in the audience.

When you first think of becoming an Auntie, you think about how you are going to have to be there for your niece or nephew throughout everything. How you are going to be their biggest supporter. How you are going to encourage them to always do their best and be the best person they can be. How you are going to teach them new things.

But me?

When I think of becoming an Auntie, I think about just how much my nephews have actually given me. They were my biggest motivation through everything I attempted. They were some of my biggest supporters. They taught me so much more than I could ever teach them. And not to mention, they have never stopped loving me.

Today, nine years later, I have to come realize just how much of a blessing becoming an auntie at a young age was for me. My nephews changed everything about me and made me into the wonderful person I am today. In fact, they are the reason I want to become a teacher. I could not thank them enough for all the motivation they have given me. From that moment on, I have tried my best, no matter how far away I may be, to be there to support my nephews in anything they do.

Their first steps.

First words.

First hair cuts.

Their first baseball games.

Basketball games.

Pre-school graduations.

First day of school.

Every birthday.

Every holiday.

Every second, every minute, every hour,

every day, every month, every year.

For the rest of my life.

Because they aren’t going to stay little forever and they surely do grow up way too fast.

And I wouldn’t want to miss a single thing.

 

Once you realize how much you take away from receiving the name “Auntie”, everything will change. It truly is the biggest blessing.

Family · life · Our Thoughts

Being an Aunt to a Niece

One of my greatest pleasures is being an aunt to a niece. It’s so much fun! Here are some examples of what it’s like being an aunt to a niece!

Being an aunt to a niece means dancing around and singing together. My niece is only 1 year and 7 months, so her singing is just gibberish. But I’m looking forward to the day when she knows more words and we can sing along together.

Being an aunt to a niece means you get to help pick out her outfits with her. My niece loves picking out her own outfits and sometimes, they’re a little crazy. But she tries! One of my favorite things is buying her new clothes. I’m a girly girl so I love buying her pink frilly dresses and such. Oh, and of course shirts that say “my aunt is my best friend” ;).

Being an aunt to a niece means playing dolls with her. My niece plays with my old Littlest Pet Shops. We don’t really have any story lines. It’s basically just her moving them around in the little house type thing we have. I usually talk with the animals in a weird voice and she loves it. Don’t be afraid to be silly with them!

Being an aunt to a niece means dealing with their tantrums because mom needs a break. Lets face it. That’s the real job of being an aunt. With my niece, I can’t help but laugh at how cute her tantrums are. But I’m sure once she gets a little older, her tantrums won’t be so cute.

Being an aunt to a niece means being a good example to her. It’s important to be a good role model, especially in this day and age. I want my niece to look up to me. I want to be the woman she deserves as an aunt. So always be careful how you act or say in front of her!

Being an aunt to a niece means being her best friend. My goal is to have her think I’m the fun aunt. As an aunt, you should be sort of a parent figure. Parents should also be fun. I just feel like an aunts definition of fun is different. I want to be someone she can count on and someone who she can talk to about whatever.

Being an aunt to a niece brings me so much joy. I’m looking forward to watching her grow up and I’m also looking forward for other nieces I will have and maybe even some nephews!

Family · Friends · Funny · Summer

Summer Bucket List 2016

Bucket lists tend to get more popular in the coming summer months when the weather is warm. With the school year coming to a close and summer approaching I put together a summer bucket list that, hopefully, I’ll be able to do some this summer! Expect follow up blogs on my bucket list experiences!

Here goes nothing…

  1. Write blogs regularly
  2. Try some new DIY projects
  3. Take my dog on walks
  4. Go to a drive-in movie
  5. Play paint twister
  6. Sight see locally
  7. Nature walks
  8. Find the perfect s’mores recipe and techniques
  9. Start painting
  10. Water balloon fight
  11. Travel to new places
  12. Try something new
  13. Have a picnic
  14. Watch the sunset and sunrise, in one day
  15. Go to the aquarium
  16. Go to Boston
  17. Go to the zoo
  18. Work out regularly
  19. Star gaze
  20. Get a job
  21. Spend time with friends and family
  22. Go to the beach
  23. Travel somewhere tropical
  24. Camp fires
  25. Camp out somewhere or go camping
  26. Attend a concert
  27. Binge watch Netflix tv series
  28. Go on a road-trip
  29. Plan a scavenger hunt with friends
  30. Take a picture at every event to make a flipagram video
  31. Take candid photoshoot pictures

Well, that’s it for now! Keep checking back for updates during the summer.

P.s. the cover picture was taken by me last summer on Block Island in Rhode Island!

Don’t forget to comment some activities on your bucket list for this summer!!

Family · Life's Milestones

A Tribute to my First Dog

When I was four years old my parents and I picked out our first family dog. We drove for hours until we arrived at the dog breeder’s house where we went down into the basement to meet all the puppies. Although I was young, I remember the day as if it were yesterday. All the pups were in a small room in the basement playing with each other, except for one who sat at the gate and watched my family. There is a saying that you do not pick your dog, your dog picks you. With my experience, I believe it. There he sat, the newest addition to our family, Bruno.

Recently, as a college student, I was asked to write a paper on someone the we used to be, but no longer are. The paper had to be based off of a picture. The picture that I chose was taken on the day we picked Bruno up to take home with us. A little, four-year-old version of me with pig tails and a frilly dress sits on the stairs of the basement, cuddled up with a teddy bear. At the bottom of the photograph, there is a set of hands holding our tiny black lab puppy next to me. My face is burrowed into my teddy bear with just my eyes sticking out at the top, peeking over Bruno next to me. Despite being extremely excited to get a dog, the picture does not show it because I was jealous. My father took a picture and held our new puppy first and I was not happy with that. Being the youngest child in the family, I had a tendency to be a bit of a brat when it came to getting what I wanted.

Looking back at this photograph today and thinking about all the memories made over the past fifteen years brings me to tears. I am reminded of all the days that I took having my dog for granted. It brings me back to summers swimming in the pool, non-stop playing fetch and even his begging and panting at the table while we ate. Most of the time, Bruno was, as we nicknamed him, a mouthy. He liked to pester, beg and he loved to jump on the counters to steal a loaf of bread. He demanded to play fetch, barked when the Patriot’s scored a touchdown and refused to eat his breakfast without a splash of milk in it. If Bruno taught me one thing, it would be to always be persistent, after all, we would eventually end up throwing him the ball and getting caught in his never-ending game of fetch. At the end of last semester, Bruno sadly passed away after being hit by a car right down the street from our house. At this point in my life, the picture is accompanied with many different emotions. I feel happiness because I was blessed with the best dog anyone could ask for and got to spend my entire childhood growing up with him. At the same time, I feel sadness because my years of making memories with him have come to an abrupt ending that no one had expected.

Although everyone understands that dogs have a shorter lifespan than people do, you never truly know just how much happiness a pet brings into each day until they are gone. Mentally, my family had been somewhat prepared that Bruno did not have many years left, being fifteen he had already surpassed the average dog lifespan. However, I had not been prepared for him to pass away from anything other than old age. It is hard to think that had he not escaped the yard, he would have still been in our home. I would not be here writing a paper about my memories with him. A few months back, I read an article about a little boy who had to put down his dog. The family wondered why animal lives are shorter than human lives. The little boy answered with “I know why, people are born so that they can learn how to live a good life- like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right? Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don’t have to stay as long”. There is no doubt that Bruno loved everybody and loved life with us. He never failed to make us smile and laugh, to watch the fort while we were not home and most importantly to love us unconditionally every single day for fifteen years. For this, I want to thank my dog for growing up with me. I would not be the person I am today if I did not have you.

Rest in the sweetest peace with all the treats, tennis balls and of course never-ending love from your family here at home. We will always love and cherish the memories we made together. We love and miss you.

Love Always,

Your Human