100 Things to ask Your Friends

My go to activity to pass the time at two in the morning is to ask my friends random questions. I call it The Question Game. My roommate, I and our group of friends do this almost weekly, except it’s getting harder and harder to find a list of questions we don’t already know the answers to. The Question Game is a great way to lightly find out slightly deep things out about friends that you may have never known. To put it simply, it’s basically a “get to know each other” game, but more fun with more awkward questions! So let’s get started…

1. What are you most afraid of?
2. What is your biggest flaw?
3. What do you love most about yourself?
4. What do you hate about yourself?
5. What was your last dream about?
6. What are the top five qualities you look for in a significant other?
7. What is the first feature you notice on the opposite sex?
8. What is your dream job?
9. What is the most embarrassing thing someone has walked in on you doing?
10. How far have you gone with a person of the opposite sex?
11. How far have you gone with a person of the same sex?
12. What’s the craziest place you’ve had sex?
13. When did you lose your virginity?
14. What was your first time like (with details!)?
15. What is one thing you want me to realize about myself?
16. How was your first kiss? (with details!)
17. What is something you regret the most?
18. What is the most embarrassing thing to happen to you?
19. Where do you see yourself in five years?
20. What is your ten year plan?
21. Do you want children, and how many?
22. What was the biggest lie you’ve told your parents?
23. What is something you’ve never told anyone?
24. What was the first thing you got grounded for?
25. Tell me about the first time you snuck out.
26. What was the hardest thing you’ve ever had to give up on?
27. What makes you bored?
28. What is your favorite thing to do?
29. What is your favorite four-legged animal?
30. Who is someone you miss the most from your childhood?
31. What was your favorite toy as a child?
32. What is your least favorite food?
33. What is your favorite food?
34. Are you usually late, early, or right on time?
35. Are you happy with your life at the moment and why/ why not?
36. Who is someone you envy?
37. Tell me about your biggest achievement.
38. What is the worse thing you’ve ever done?
39. What is the most embarrassing thing you’ve been caught doing?
40. What was the worst punishment you received as a child and for what?
41. What is your favorite type of chocolate?
42. What are your 3 favorite features of yourself?
43. What career do you hope to have?
44. Who was the last person you lied to? When? Why?
45. What scares you the most and why?
46. What do you like to do in your free time?
47. Tell me about a mistake you made.
48. Tell me about a relationship you regret.
49. Which is your favorite human body part, why?
50. What is your biggest turn on?
51. Do you have any fetishes?
52. What is your biggest turn off?
53. What piece of technology brings you the most joy?
54. What is your going to bed routine?
55. Do you wash your hands in the bathroom?
56. What animal best represents your personality?
57. What is the most important object you own?
58. Have you ever committed a crime?
59. What job would you be absolutely horrible at?
60. What commercial convinced you not to buy the product?
61. What is something most people can do easily but you find difficult?
62. What is a job that exists but should not exist?
63. What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?
64. What was your drop the mic moment?
65. What were you most scared of as a child?
66. Do you believe in ghosts?
67. Do you believe in big foot?
68. Who is your nemesis?
69. What is the best and worse thing about being a female/male?
70. What childish thing do you still enjoy?
71. Which celebrity would make the worst leader of the country?
72. What is the most useless thing you know how to do?
73. What is your strangest talent?
74. What wild animal most represents you? Why?
75. How many people have you dated?
76. Have you ever considered liking the opposite sex?
77. Have you ever seen someone of the opposite sex as attractive?
78. Have you ever had a crush on a teacher or coach of some sort?
79. Do you prefer Wendy’s of McDonald’s?
80. Chipotle or Qdoba?
81. Chocolate or fruity candy?
82. What is your favorite sex position?
83. Have you ever been caught having sex?
84. Do you think there is another life form in the universe?
85. What is something that you are scared of?
86. What are three things that are on your bucket list?
87. What is your ultimate dream job?
88. What is the coolest thing you’ve found?
89. What is the most amount of money that you won?
90. What is something that terrifies you, but you do it anyways?
91. What was your best/ favorite class/subject in high school?
92. What was your worst/ least favorite class/subject in high school?
93. Have you ever crossed someone out of your yearbook? Who?
94. Where is your favorite place to go?
95. Where do you want to travel to?
96. Are you scared of heights? Death? Clowns? Etc?
97. Tell me something I don’t already know about you?
98. What is the meanest thing you’ve said or done to someone?
99. What is the sweetest thing someone else has done for you?
100. What is the nicest thing you’ve said or done for someone else?
101. Do you like this game?

Of course, these questions are meant to lead you to think of other questions that are similar. These are just starter questions to help you get thinking!

7 Things That get you Through the Semester

With the first month or so of being back to your college coming to an end soon, you may be starting to wonder when will it be over? Well, here’s a news flash, college is a lengthy process. If you want a degree, you’re looking at around four years at this place.

But have no fear!

Here’s a list of 7 things that can help you survive the rest of the semester.

1. Your close friends. Over the course of my last semester, my friends were unbelievably supportive. They understood when I needed to stay in my dorm and work on a paper and when I was too stressed out to focus on doing any work. You definitely meet some of your best friends in college.
2. Your man. Not everyone has a boyfriend, I know. But since I started dating my boyfriend in my second semester, he has been there for me at one in the morning when I needed help writing my final paper or had some sort of mental break down and just needed to talk. Boyfriends are great when you need to talk about things you don’t want to discuss with your girls.
3. NETFLIX. Oh my gosh is this one of the biggest waste of time while simultaneously being the best thing invented yet. You can literally binge watch every season of all your favorite TV shows. Or have a movie marathon. Just make sure that you complete your assignments at some point, preferably before they are due.
4. Your girls or guys. Here’s a group of people that know how to cheer you up and get your mind off of things when you need it. They’ll be there at ten in the morning to make cookies with you and eat chocolate.
5. Your roomie. I get that not everyone is super close with their roommate. For me, I dormed with my best friend. We had rituals to wobble every Wednesday, have pasta dinners on Wednesday’s, taco Tuesday’s and trekked through a winter storms to stock up on food instead of going to the dining halls.
6. Late night snacks and delivery. Nothing is better than ordering Chinese food or pizza at midnight. Or making a bag of popcorn in the microwave. Really just any type of midnight snack is a savior so stock up!
7. Your family. Obviously your family had been one of your biggest fan clubs for years, literally since birth. No one can replace the friends that have no choice but to be there for you. Family by chance. Friends by choice.

There are plenty of other things that will help you to survive the semester. Dining halls that stay open late. Extended library hours during finals weeks. Study lounges. Club involvement. This list was just a few of the (mainly) people that will be there when you need it the most.

Second chances

Let’s talk about giving second chances. For me, I was a firm believer that sometimes people make a mistake. I believed these people are worthy of having a second chance, no matter how much they may have hurt my feelings. But that was just me. Some people have such a hard time letting people into their lives to begin with. Therefore, a second chance is simply seen as a second chance that this person could hurt them again. Both of these sides I can understand. Either you give people second chances or you don’t.

Here’s the thing though, I usually tend to give people a second second chance. Or a third second chance. Or fourth. Fifth. Sixth. You get the point. I’ve come to realize a thing or two about people who deserve a second chance and people who don’t even deserve the first chance you gave them.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

You have to prove your worthiness of being their friend or significant other, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because you shouldn’t have to fight for a friendship or relationship where the other person questions why they need or would want you in their life.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

You have been hurt so many times that the actions causing the hurt no longer upset you, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because this person has hurt you consistently over and over again. Yes sometimes people can change. But this is reoccurring, there is no sign of change when someone has hurt you multiple times.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

There isn’t mutual trust or honesty, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because trust and honesty are the base of any friendship and relationship. If you can’t trust your friend or significant other, the entire base of this friendship is falling apart.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

They simply don’t care about you or your feelings, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because a true friend or partner cares about how you feel. They care if they hurt your feelings or upset you in someway.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

You are the one making plans to hangout all the time or being the first to text or call them, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because every friendship or relationship should be mutual. A mutual agreement to each start a conversation one day instead of one person putting all the effort into the friendship or relationship.

Here’s the thing with second chances, once you give them a second chance, they think that they will always get another second chance. There’s a lot of circumstances that I can’t even begin to write in the above examples. The point being, that once a person is disrespectful or hurtful to you, it’s difficult to forgive them never mind give them a second chance at being in your life. You’re always going to think back to the day they said this or did that. But you’ll be the bigger person and put the hurt in the past. But once you give one second chance, it’s difficult to stop giving second chances. You become numb to the hurt and the disrespect. You begin to think that that’s just how it is. You overlook things that upset you. You forgive them. You start over. You put it all in the past. But, it really never is in the past. You always wonder when it’s going to happen again. You question everything they say to you.

So here’s what I’ve come to realize about giving people second chances.

First off, obviously this person has to genuinely feel badly for what they did or said. Don’t accept any apology over a text or phone call. Anyone can type something in a text message or say something without looking you face to face.

Second, make them wait it out. They hurt you, why should you immediately let them back into your life? Make them prove that they feel badly and prove that they want your friendship or relationship. That it means as much to them as it means to you.

Never fight for a friendship or relationship where you weren’t the one making the mistake. Someone else hurt you, why are you proving yourself to them to keep the friendship or relationship?

Once you have spent some time kind of waiting it out and deciding if this friendship or relationship is one that is worth a shot at a second chance, talk to them in person. Explain to them that what happened really hurt you but you feel that this friendship or relationship is one that is worthy of a second chance.

But that is it.

One second chance.

The point of a second chance is that this person only has this one shot. And if they make a mistake again, they don’t get to have a second second chance.

 

A Letter to my Co-blogger

Dear, C or “Bubbles”,
It will be 3 years of being friends this month. We’ve never met in person but you have become an important part of my life.

I remember getting a DM from you on my personal Twitter saying that this other girl was stealing my tweets…but it was actually my anon. From there, we interacted a lot on Twitter and the rest is history!
A lot has happened since then. (These won’t be in order because I can’t remember the order)

Your 3rd nephew was born.

You lost some friends but it was for the better because they were toxic.

My 1st niece was born.

You went to prom and didn’t have the greatest time like you were hoping.(because of so called friends)

We graduated high school.

You went through a hard time with your boyfriend at the time and I had to help you through the pain and worry.

I got engaged and you helped me with wedding plans.

I got a job.

You started college.

You got through the situation with your boyfriend and finally visited him (or whatever he was) for the first time in 3 years.

Decided you deserved better.

I tried my best to help you through the stress of your first semester. (Sorry if I didn’t do a great job😂)

My fiancé broke up with me and you helped me through it.

Your first dog passed away.

You met a boy who is perfect for you and you’re the happiest I’ve ever seen you.

I started developing feelings for my guy best friend and am now dating him.

You got a job.

Your 4th nephew was born.

You found out your brothers fiancée was having another boy.

My second niece was born.

And now we are here.
So much more happened, but those were most of the major moments. I am really thankful for your friendship. You are kind hearted, funny, caring, understanding, a good listener, and most of all, a great friend. You listen to all my rants and give me as much advice as you can. You let me complain about the stupidest things mainly because you complain about similar things. You fangirl over the walking dead with me and we can have an hour long discussion about each episode. We send each other pictures of our nephews and nieces and cry over how big they are getting. We break out in song together (aka type out lyrics via text). This reminds me, we need to FaceTime more often so we can sings songs together. We used to watch movies on Netflix at the same time and discuss them (which we need to do that again because I miss it). I feel like we just click. I don’t see you not being a part of my life ever. I hate that we live so far away, but I WILL visit you someday. My life won’t be complete until I meet you face to face. Again, I am so thankful for you and I cherish our friendship so much. I am honored to be friends with someone like you. You’ve been there for me through the ups and the downs even if you are far away and I hope I’m just as great of a friend to you as you are to me. I’m really glad I had the crazy idea of making an anon Twitter.

I luff you.

Love,

O or “Squishy”

Summer Bucket List 2016

Bucket lists tend to get more popular in the coming summer months when the weather is warm. With the school year coming to a close and summer approaching I put together a summer bucket list that, hopefully, I’ll be able to do some this summer! Expect follow up blogs on my bucket list experiences!

Here goes nothing…

1. Write blogs regularly
2. Try some new DIY projects
3. Take my dog on walks
4. Go to a drive-in movie
5. Play paint twister
6. Sight see locally
7. Nature walks
8. Find the perfect s’mores recipe and techniques
9. Start painting
10. Water balloon fight
11. Travel to new places
12. Try something new
13. Have a picnic
14. Watch the sunset and sunrise, in one day
15. Go to the aquarium
16. Go to Boston
17. Go to the zoo
18. Work out regularly
19. Star gaze
20. Get a job
21. Spend time with friends and family
22. Go to the beach
23. Travel somewhere tropical
24. Camp fires
25. Camp out somewhere or go camping
26. Attend a concert
27. Binge watch Netflix tv series
28. Go on a road-trip
29. Plan a scavenger hunt with friends
30. Take a picture at every event to make a flipagram video
31. Take candid photoshoot pictures

Well, that’s it for now! Keep checking back for updates during the summer.

P.s. the cover picture was taken by me last summer on Block Island in Rhode Island!

Don’t forget to comment some activities on your bucket list for this summer!!