Funny · Our Thoughts

Bad habits (I won’t give up, ever)

Everyone has them right? A bad habit they wish that they could stop doing, but probably won’t ever be able to do so?

I know I definitely have a whole bunch! Here they are….

  • procrastinating
  • drinking coffee
  • biting nails
  • forgetting to keep up with tv series or shows
  • living out of a suitcase, or your car
  • overpacking for trips, no matter how long or short they may be
  • sleeping in and staying up late
  • hating people
  • twitter, or social media in general
  • setting unrealistic goals for myself
  • obsessively checking my phone
  • cracking my knuckles
  • talking to yourself
  • picking at things, such as your hair, skin or scabs
  • saying yes to everything
  • forgetting the names of people you meet
  • having expectations of how a conversation or date will go
  • folding my laundry but then leaving it out instead of putting it away
  • popping pimples
  • being overly critical (especially of yourself)
  • binge watching Netflix
  • eavesdropping
  • being argumentative and stubborn
  • eating when you’re bored
  • canceling plans because you just don’t want to
  • annoying people on purpose
  • hogging all the attention
  • jealousy
  • twirling my hair
  • touching my boobs
  • checking my phone before falling asleep
  • being easily annoyed or stressed
  • smoosh-ing too much into one day
  • not getting enough sleep or sleeping in when you shouldn’t
  • waiting until the last minute to complete some type of assignment
  • talking softer towards the end of a sentence
  • being the “mom” of the group
  • being in control at all times
  • doing less important things before the important things
  • forgetting to text or call someone back
  • or texting back too quickly (there is no in between)
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advice · Jobs · life · Our Thoughts

My passion

Hello, it’s Squishy. I’m going to share a little bit about my dream and passion. Some of you may know, I’m wanting to become an EMT. I may seem like I hate everyone, but I love helping people. I like the thought of saving lives and just doing something for my community.

My junior and senior years in high school, I was really struggling on what I wanted to do with my life. At the time, I was dating someone in the military who I thought I was going to marry someday. So, I had to think of a job that would be easy to have while moving around a lot. I looked into it and thought nursing might be a good fit. I always found medical things to be interesting. I took a tour at a college I was interested in and really liked it. But, I knew that since I was homeschooled and really couldn’t afford college, it probably would be really difficult to get into a good college. So, I kept looking. Eventually, my mom suggested looking into becoming an EMT. I did my research and asked a guy I knew, who was a paramedic, if it was possible to move around and be an EMT at the same time and he said it was. The more I thought about it, the more I liked the idea of becoming one. I get really passionate about things really fast. When I want something, I don’t stop until I get it. Eventually, I signed up for the EMT course at the same college where I toured at. I loved the class. It was so interesting and such a great experience. I knew I had made the right decision. At the end of the 4 month course, I passed. I was so proud of myself. But, I wasn’t quite an EMT yet. I still had to take the National Registry Exam. I forget how many months I waited after the course to take it but, it was probably too long. When I did take it, I didn’t pass. I was so disappointed. It was so much harder than I expected. Which, is probably good. Because they want the best. It’s literally between life and death. I struggled with where to go from there. I kept going from “I’m done. I quit. I don’t want to do it anymore.” to “no, I need to still pursue it.” I went back and forth so many times. Finally, I decided to start studying again and schedule to take the National Registey Exam. I felt like I studied pretty hard. I felt really confident going into the exam. I failed. Again. I wasn’t able to take the exam again because my time limit expired shortly after that try.

That leads me to where I’m at now. A year after I graduated EMT School. I recently found out about an EMT class that’s in the next town over and I looked into it and signed up. I start in January. I am so excited! Still, I don’t know what’s going to happen. I may not pass again. But, I have a really good feeling about it. I’m sharing all this to tell you to just never give up on your dream. That sounds cliché, I know. If you fail, please don’t stop trying. Everyone deserves to have their dream. I believe everything happens for a reason. That God has a plan for everything. If it doesn’t happen when you want it to, there’s a reason. A reason you may not understand at the moment. But, I promise you, you will understand eventually. Heck, a better opportunity might come along and you’ll be thankful what you had planned didn’t happen. I would like to add that I did choose this career path because of a boy and even though it’s now my passion, don’t decide what you want to do with your life based around your significant other. You need to follow your dreams and do what’s best for you. I’ll end my cliché post here.

advice · high school · Our Thoughts

15 things they should teach in high school (but don’t)

High school years are some of the most important years of your life. What you do in high school determines what your future will be like. If you intend on attending a prestigious college, you’re going to have to work hard and receive grades that stand out. Becoming involved in high school is important to colleges because they want a group of students who is diverse in what they do.

However, high school doesn’t just prepare you for college. It should be preparing you for becoming an adult. Once you graduate high school, you are seen as an adult in the eyes of society. Sure high school gives you the knowledge for college courses and prepares you for the work load of homework. But there are many things that high school doesn’t prepare you for before you graduate that you should really know how to do.

Here is a list of things that they should teach you in high school, but they don’t.

  1. How to cook-
    • Going into college I had the thought that I would try to make my own meals as much as I could. But I quickly realized that the only foods on the menu were ramen noodles, pasta and sauce, toast, cookies and microwave meals. My middle and high school offered cooking classes that were mandatory for each grade level, however they stopped offering these courses after my first year in middle school. I always thought those classes would be fun but I never realized how important they could be and are when you are on your own.
  2. How to balance a check book
    • Now this is something that for sure should be taught in high school. Instead of learning this in a class, my mother had to teach me how to balance a check book. Sure it’s only an hour or so lesson but a class should be offered to high schoolers that teaches them responsibility when it comes to managing money.
  3. How to apply for loans
    • After you graduate high school, applying for loans for college is one of he first thing you’ll be doing. It will probably be the first adult like thing you’ve ever done in your life. Of course, our generation is also one that is filled with first generation college students which isn’t helpful because no one knows exactly how to apply for loans, what the differences are, or which loans are the best.
  4. How and when to start a retirement fund
    • Not that this is super important at a younger age, but as you get older you are going to want to start planning a retirement fund. My mom told me that at the age of 21 you should start putting away $100 a month towards retirement and by the time you are there you’ll have a million dollars saved.
  5. How and when to pay off college loans
    • Loans have interest. Interest is a killer when you are trying to pay off your loans. I wish that not only did high school teach me about applying for loans, but also how to pay them off in a shorter amount of time. Or at least some tricks or tips on not gaining so much interest over the years.
  6. How to handle money and taxes
    • This kind of goes with everything I’ve been saying with loans and retirement funds but, high school should teach you how to budget your money. How much you should spend and how much you should save. Also, they should teach you about taxes and what exactly you get back in them at the end of the year. I just started working my first real job and have no clue what the taxes being taken out of my pay check are for.
  7. Politics
    • In high school, I took a variety of history classes. But now that I am in college, I am required to take a politic class. This class was completely overwhelming for me. The professor would use examples that I have no clue the meaning of. We never really spent too much time on politics which really stressed me out when taking this class, so much so that I withdrew from it.
  8. How to change a tire
    • Sure it comes with some type of instruction in the car manual, however, changing a tire is just one of those things that you should know hoe to do before it happens. Learning how to change a tire on the side of the highway isn’t the best time to figure it out for yourself.
  9. Simple home repairs
    • How to unclog a toilet, how to fix a leaky faucet, something simple like this could be really useful when you own your first home. Homes come with some issues no matter what, painting, sanding, installing a shelf, and so on. And sure these are simple instructions for the most part, but it surely isn’t always common sense.
  10. How to establish good credit
    • Honestly, I still don’t understand what credit is. I don’t know how to establish credit. I don’t, I just don’t know a single thing about credit.
  11. Finding a job
    • I recently got my first real job, after taking on about ten interviews and finally getting hired, finding a job was more difficult than I had thought it would be. I always felt good after the interview, only to hear I didn’t get the job.
  12. How to be interviewed for a job
    • Interviews always made me really nervous. You aren’t sure what questions they are going to ask you. You can’t prepare your answers in advanced. Interviewing isn’t for everyone that’s for sure. Learning how to handle an interview in high school would have helped me so much with my interviews instead of learning after a series of failures.
  13. Self defense
    • Here is something that my high school actually offered me. Before graduation, we took a class for self defense, it was just the ladies who were offered this course since ladies are more likely to run into a situation where they have to defend themselves. However, it was just a two hour quick lesson that I think would have helped so much more had they done the class over a period of time to learn more defense mechanisms.
  14. CPR certification or basic first aid
    • Many jobs look for people who are CPR certified and know some type of first aid. Usually a job will train you in this, but not all jobs require it. It gives you something to put on your resume that employers are looking for. I am not CPR certified or know any type of basic first aid for my job. I recently had someone pass out unconscious and had absolutely no clue what to do other than inform my supervisor to get help. It was terrifying not knowing how to help.
  15. Time management
    • For the most part, this is something I probably learned the most of on this list in high school. You do have to manage your time well and get assignments in on time as they are due. However, its different when you are on your own in college and you have to manage work, school, campus involvement, class, eating, laundry, etc etc all by yourself.
fall · Our Thoughts

Things to look forward to this fall

The time most people look forward to every year has finally come….Fall. Personally, I’m a summer girl. But Fall is a close second! Just like any other season, Fall comes with many activities that people do each year. Here’s what I look forward to in Fall!

1. Apple picking

 I don’t know what it is about personally picking apples that’s so enjoyable. I try to do it every year anyway!

2. Going to a pumpkin patch

I get way more excited about going to a pumpkin patch and picking out a pumpkin than I should. I always like to make sure my pumpkin is perfectly round. It makes it perfect for carving!

3. Carving pumpkins 

Honestly, I get really frustrated while I carve pumpkins because I’m a perfectionist and I tend to mess up a lot. But I still like doing it, especially with friends and family.

4. Going to haunted houses

I’ve only gone to one haunted thing before. I plan on going again this year. I don’t know why getting scared to death is fun but, it is!

5. Halloween

Okay okay…you’re going to think I’m weird. But, I’ve never celebrated Halloween! My family never got into it. I do know the majority of people love it! I’ve always wanted to dress up and go trick or treating. But, I’m 20 now so it’s not as acceptable. 

6. Sweater weather

I love shorts and tank tops. But, sweaters and leggings are probably the most comfortable things to wear. And fashionable!

7. Changing of the leaves

I love love love how beautiful the trees are in the beginning of fall. Shades of red, orange, and yellow everywhere. I’m thankful I live in an area that has a lot of woods!

8. Thanksgiving

I mean…who doesn’t love stuffing your face with turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, corn, and various other foods and then suffering from a food coma afterwards? I always overeat on thanksgiving. I can’t help it! I HAVE to eat one piece of every pie.

advice · life · Our Thoughts

How I deal with Stress

Lately, I’ve had to deal with more stress than I probably ever had to deal with all at once. Working twice as many hours than normal, friend drama, dog dying, mom in the hospital, 1 of 2 cars breaking down… It’s a lot for me, personally, to handle. Everyone has their own way of dealing with stress. Here are some of my ways!
1. Breathe.

Sometimes, you just get so caught up in the stress and are so overwhelmed that you just forget to breathe. It’s important to just sit down and take deep breaths. When I’m feeling really stressed, I start breathing inadequately and have to just calm myself and breathe.

2. Pray.

Personally, as a Christian, praying is a huge factor in keeping me sane. There’s always a feeling of peace when I pray. Reading the bible helps me as well!

3. Rant.

Getting is all out usually helps. At least for the time being. My poor boyfriend has to listen to me rant a lot because I’m always stressing about something. But, he’s always there to listen and tries to do the best he can to help the situation. Along with my two Twitter best friends. Thankful for all of them.

4. Watch Netflix.

I’ll use any excuse to binge watch Netflix. But, it does help keep my mind off of the things I’m stressing about! Or, depending on the show, makes me more stressed. I get so invested in shows!

5. Take a nap.

Sometimes all I need is some sleep. I get all mentally and physically exhausted and just need to turn off my mind for a little while.

6. Listen to Disney Music.

I’m a kid at heart! How can you be sad or stressed while listening to Disney songs? If you’re stressed, you just have to try and LET IT GO LET IT GOOOOOO! (Sorry, couldn’t help myself)

7. Think of all the good things in my life.

I especially try and think about how amazing the people in my life are. I have friends and family who support me and are always there for me. Words truly can’t describe how thankful I am for all of them. Thinking of the positive things really does help. It may not take away the problem, but it at least helps you not go completely mad.
I hope that whatever you are going through, you are able to find ways to help you cope with the stress!

advice · Friends · Our Thoughts

Second chances

Let’s talk about giving second chances. For me, I was a firm believer that sometimes people make a mistake. I believed these people are worthy of having a second chance, no matter how much they may have hurt my feelings. But that was just me. Some people have such a hard time letting people into their lives to begin with. Therefore, a second chance is simply seen as a second chance that this person could hurt them again. Both of these sides I can understand. Either you give people second chances or you don’t.

Here’s the thing though, I usually tend to give people a second second chance. Or a third second chance. Or fourth. Fifth. Sixth. You get the point. I’ve come to realize a thing or two about people who deserve a second chance and people who don’t even deserve the first chance you gave them.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

You have to prove your worthiness of being their friend or significant other, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because you shouldn’t have to fight for a friendship or relationship where the other person questions why they need or would want you in their life.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

You have been hurt so many times that the actions causing the hurt no longer upset you, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because this person has hurt you consistently over and over again. Yes sometimes people can change. But this is reoccurring, there is no sign of change when someone has hurt you multiple times.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

There isn’t mutual trust or honesty, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because trust and honesty are the base of any friendship and relationship. If you can’t trust your friend or significant other, the entire base of this friendship is falling apart.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

They simply don’t care about you or your feelings, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because a true friend or partner cares about how you feel. They care if they hurt your feelings or upset you in someway.

If you are in a friendship or relationship where…

You are the one making plans to hangout all the time or being the first to text or call them, they don’t deserve it.

Why? Because every friendship or relationship should be mutual. A mutual agreement to each start a conversation one day instead of one person putting all the effort into the friendship or relationship.

Here’s the thing with second chances, once you give them a second chance, they think that they will always get another second chance. There’s a lot of circumstances that I can’t even begin to write in the above examples. The point being, that once a person is disrespectful or hurtful to you, it’s difficult to forgive them never mind give them a second chance at being in your life. You’re always going to think back to the day they said this or did that. But you’ll be the bigger person and put the hurt in the past. But once you give one second chance, it’s difficult to stop giving second chances. You become numb to the hurt and the disrespect. You begin to think that that’s just how it is. You overlook things that upset you. You forgive them. You start over. You put it all in the past. But, it really never is in the past. You always wonder when it’s going to happen again. You question everything they say to you.

So here’s what I’ve come to realize about giving people second chances.

First off, obviously this person has to genuinely feel badly for what they did or said. Don’t accept any apology over a text or phone call. Anyone can type something in a text message or say something without looking you face to face.

Second, make them wait it out. They hurt you, why should you immediately let them back into your life? Make them prove that they feel badly and prove that they want your friendship or relationship. That it means as much to them as it means to you.

Never fight for a friendship or relationship where you weren’t the one making the mistake. Someone else hurt you, why are you proving yourself to them to keep the friendship or relationship?

Once you have spent some time kind of waiting it out and deciding if this friendship or relationship is one that is worth a shot at a second chance, talk to them in person. Explain to them that what happened really hurt you but you feel that this friendship or relationship is one that is worthy of a second chance.

But that is it.

One second chance.

The point of a second chance is that this person only has this one shot. And if they make a mistake again, they don’t get to have a second second chance.

 

Funny · life · Our Thoughts

Thoughts of an introvert

Hi. I’m Squishy. (People say in unison – “Hiiii squishy”) I am an introvert. I have been an introvert for the past 20 years. Some say it’s because I was home schooled. I say it’s because people suck. I feel like more and more people are becoming introverted. Some, I believe, are introverts because it’s the “cool” thing to do because they’re conforming to today’s introverted society. I don’t mean to brag, but I was introverted before it was “cool”. So, I’m going to list some of the things that us introverts go through in our daily lives.

1. Needing alone time after being social

I always feel mentally exhausted after (and sometimes during) being social. Being social is fun sometimes, I just can only handle so much at a time. It always feels nice to get into bed and relax and calm your brain.

2. People thinking you’re rude

I’m just a naturally quiet person. Some people assume I’m rude because I don’t talk much. There’s nothing wrong with just observing! If I have nothing to say, why talk? I’m not going to talk just to talk and have random crap come out of my mouth. Sue me. People also might think I’m rude personally because I have major RBF. Oops.

3. Being happy when plans get canceled

I feel bad for feeling this way sometimes. There are just some days when I need to be by myself and Netflix.

4. Being too afraid or shy to do things

Sometimes I let my shyness or whatever get in the way of things. As most of you know, I work at a jewelry store. I could probably be a lot better sales person if I was more outgoing and had more people skills. But it’s just not who I am. I have to make phone calls and they’re always a mess.

5. Instantly regretting making plans

We’ve all been there. I sometimes ask myself “why did I just do that? ABORT ABORT ABORT”. But then, I usually end up having fun with whatever plans I made.

6. Wanting to be alone but not lonely

I hope this makes sense to most of you. I love being alone but I like knowing that I have people who are there for me whenever.

 
Please don’t think I hate being around people all the time. I do enjoy spending time with family and friends. I just enjoy my quiet and alone time!

P.S. Shout out to my boyfriend for understanding that I need my alone time and not getting upset at me about it. You’re the best.


advice · date · dating · Our Thoughts · Relationships

8 Tips for Boyfriends

Every girl is different with what they do and do not like in a relationship. Some girls are needy and some girls need their space. Some girls like receiving gifts and some girls would rather have affection.

I’m going to list some basic tips that MOST girls like!

1. Text back fast

This one is for the girls who are needy (like myself). Girls like to know that they’re a top priority. If you aren’t really doing anything, just be sure to text your girl often! I know you can’t always text back in a quick manner. Which brings me to my next tip.

2. Let her know when you’re busy

This is one thing that really irks me. Don’t just drop from the face of the earth randomly. Let your girl know when you won’t be able to talk! Most girls appreciate this a lot. I know I do.

3. Buy her flowers

I loooove receiving flowers. I always think of my boyfriend whenever I look at them. They’re so pretty and smell really good. I love that it’s an old fashioned gesture that’s still around today. It’s so simple but thoughtful.

4. We enjoy the simplest of things

We don’t always need extravagant dates or gifts. Pack a lunch and take her on a picnic, dress like bums, get some snacks and binge watch Netflix all day, take her to the drive-in theater, etc. It really doesn’t take much to make us happy (at least it shouldn’t).

5. Take her on a surprise date

A fancy date is good every once in a while too! Tell your girl to put on her nicest dress and look all dolled up but don’t tell her what you’re going to do. Take her to a fancy restaurant and treat her like the queen she is. Now, surprise dates don’t have to be fancy or expensive. They can be anything you want them to be!

6. Send long paragraphs via text

I love receiving long paragraphs from my boyfriend that tell me how much I mean to him. It can make my bad day good and my good day great. It just lets me know that he is thinking of me. This goes to girlfriends too! Send your man a long paragraph!

7. Send a love letter

People don’t do this that often nowadays. But I think writing a love letter means so much. You’re taking the time out of your day to sit down and hand write your love. It’s just really sweet.

8. Listen to her

I know us girls sometimes just ramble on. But do you know how many points you gain when your girl is talking to you about something and then you later mention something about what she said? A lot. You are her best friend and she just wants to tell you everything. Try to be interested in what she’s saying.

So girls, show this to your boyfriends if you feel he is slacking in some of these areas! Every girl deserves to be treated like a queen.

Blog Challenges · Our Thoughts

Unique Blogger Award

First off, we want to thank little Purple.Mage for nominating us for this challenge. Our response may be a little different that usual since we will both be responding to the questions!

Here are the rules:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and include a link to their blog.
  • Answer their 3 questions.
  • Include one meme and one quote you really like.
  • Nominate 8-13 bloggers to receive this award.
  • Ask your nominees 3 UNIQUE questions.
  • Add a link to the awards creator: A Girl’s Voyage- Wanderlust77

Here are the questions little Purple.Mage asked us:

  1. If you had to associate yourself with one scented candle, what would it be and why?

B:

If I were to be a candle, I would think it would smell fruity and summer-y and probably a little flower-y. I think thats a word. I tend to be a really happy, bubbly person which is why I would think the smell of my candle would be fruity and fresh.

S:

Coffee. Definitely coffee. It runs in my veins and it’s basically my obsession. I like to be all warm and cozy and I feel like coffee goes hand in hand with that.

2. If you came across a book that detailed your future, would you want to open it and read it?

B:

Interesting question! My immediate thought was no, which I am going to stick to. I wouldn’t open the book because I honestly believe that in my life right now I am on the right track to where my future will bring me. The future is unknown for a reason!

S:

Oh, that’s a hard one. The temptation would definitely be there. But, I like not knowing. If I knew what was going to happen, I would spend my life worrying if I’m making the right choices to get to that point.

3. What do you think is the meaning of life?

B:

The answer to this question obviously varies on who you ask, which is probably why this was one of the questions! I think that the meaning of life is for people to find their own happiness. I also believe that finding this happiness includes falling in love with someone who makes you feel happy. Falling in love gives your life more meaning because you get to spend your lifetime finding happiness with that person,whether it be traveling, getting married or starting a family you get to experience your happiest days with that person.

S:

I’m religious so my answer might be different from most people’s. I believe God created us to fulfill his eternal plan. (I won’t get into that because it would be too long). But I also agree with C’s answer!

One meme that makes me laugh?

B:

I just liked this one when I was searching through some because I recently started my first job and it gets really hectic. I work at a concession stand at a concert arena and intermission always has me like this.

Plot twist, there’s another. S actually made this one because we religiously watch The Walking Dead together. If you haven’t seen it you won’t understand. You also won’t understand if you aren’t a 90’s kid. But I think it’s hilarious.

S:


I don’t know why I love this one so much. Sometimes I say “I’m going to cut off your nipples” so this one just goes with that perfectly.

My favorite quote right now?

B:

I literally live off of quotes so this is actually a pretty tough choice. But after looking though my quotes Pinterest board I have made my decision. I can’t decide, so here are three. Whoops.

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly”. -Proverb

“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth”. -Unknown

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain”. -Unknown

S:

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” – Abraham Lincoln

I agree that A Girl’s Voyage- Wanderlust77 ‘s idea of nominating our ten most recent followers is a great idea to get to know them better.

So we are going to nominate,

  1. Kevin Brown Poetry
  2. TinzRant
  3. Starlif
  4. NYANILAVIDA
  5. The Living Me
  6. HOT MESS goes to oz
  7. Ramona Crisstea
  8. Jefe YO Soy
  9. allofthischaos
  10. Making memories

(Yay for learning how to tag people for real five days later)

Our questions for them are…

  1. What is the weirdest food you’ve ever eaten?
  2. You’ve been arrested and placed in jail. What are you in for?
  3. Is the glass half empty, half full, or completely full? Why?