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Bad habits (I won’t give up, ever)

Everyone has them right? A bad habit they wish that they could stop doing, but probably won’t ever be able to do so?

  • procrastinating
  • drinking coffee
  • biting nails
  • forgetting to keep up with tv series or shows
  • living out of a suitcase, or your car
  • overpacking for trips, no matter how long or short they may be
  • sleeping in and staying up late
  • hating people
  • twitter, or social media in general
  • setting unrealistic goals for myself
  • obsessively checking my phone
  • cracking my knuckles
  • talking to yourself
  • picking at things, such as your hair, skin or scabs
  • saying yes to everything
  • forgetting the names of people you meet
  • having expectations of how a conversation or date will go
  • folding my laundry but then leaving it out instead of putting it away
  • popping pimples
  • being overly critical (especially of yourself)
  • binge watching Netflix
  • eavesdropping
  • being argumentative and stubborn
  • eating when you’re bored
  • canceling plans because you just don’t want to
  • annoying people on purpose
  • hogging all the attention
  • jealousy
  • twirling my hair
  • touching my boobs
  • checking my phone before falling asleep
  • forgetting to keep up with tv series or shows
  • living out of a suitcase, or your car
  • overpacking for trips, no matter how long or short they may be
  • being easily annoyed or stressed
  • smoosh-ing too much into one day
  • not getting enough sleep or sleeping in when you shouldn’t
  • waiting until the last minute to complete some type of assignment
  • talking softer towards the end of a sentence
  • being the “mom” of the group
  • being in control at all times
  • doing less important things before the important things
  • forgetting to text or call someone back
  • or texting back too quickly (there is no in between)
College · Greek Life · Uncategorized

Campus Involvement

Okay, so as I talked about in the quick blog we posted yesterday, I have been super busy lately. I was having a bit of a hard time coming up with a good blog topic and then it hit me, the one thing that I have been doing like crazy since coming back to campus, being involved. 

Now I’m not going to say what to get involved in or try to convince you to do all of the things that I do on my campus, however I am going to encourage you to be as involved as you can be. This doesn’t just go for college students but also high school students, and even graduates or work force employees. In general, I just want you to be involved whether it be with an organization, club, Greek life, the community, your workplace, ANYTHING!

Being involved on my campus as definitely changed my life and my outlook on life. I have found many organizations that I am very passionate about and loving being a part of. To give you a sense of how much time a day I spend being involved (especially the past few weeks) here are some of the things that have been keeping me on my toes lately.

On my campus, I am involved with..

Program Council- this is an organization that plans all of the events for everyone on campus. They host Bingo nights, homecoming week, springfest week, poetry nights, open mic nights, craft nights, and everything in between. All the events that they host on campus are usually 100% free. Other than that, they also plan some Off Campus Adventures that cost money, but aren’t above $10, which appeals to the college student wallet.

Greek Life- I am in a sorority on my campus. Every week we hold a Chapter meeting that is mandatory to attend. Along with that we attend philanthropy events to support the community and our organizations. Since I am in Greek Life, I also support Panhellenic Association. This is the governing board for all the sororities on campus. It also has a Circle of Sisterhood philanthropy that we support and raise money for. We do tons of volunteering in the community, off and on campus.

Residence Hall Association- This is the governing body that allocates money to the Residential buildings, programs, and any other event that you may need money for. This group basically votes to approve your request or not. It also holds some fun events like making cards for people with cancer or playing games against other residential halls.

Lastly, I signed up for a six week course about Greek Leadership and Development (or GLAD). In this we have a small group of campus leaders who get together to have discussions with other adminstrators on how we can become a better campus leader and how we can make a better image for ourselves on campus.

These four organizations are just the major ones that I participate in and attend meetings for every week. As you can probably tell, my schedule is pretty packed. Between these organizations, working, homework and other campus events, you’re probably wondering why I make myself so busy.

The answer is simple. Being involved on campus brings you so many opportunities that if you aren’t involved, you wouldn’t have the opportunity to do. For example, if I weren’t in Program Council, I wouldn’t have the opportunity to attend the Leadership Summit I went to a couple weeks ago. If I weren’t in Greek Life, I wouldn’t have been able to sign up for GLAD. Of course, there have been other opportunities that are available to me that I have had to say no to, as much as I didn’t want to.

And that’s just the case, being involved comes with responsibility and most important time management. First you are a college student. Then you are a campus leader. What I mean by this is that sometimes you can’t do everything. You must prioritize your school work before your involvement. If you know that you have a busy day on Tuesdays, you have to plan ahead and do everything before Tuesday. If you signed up for some leadership course that overlaps with your work schedule, you have to try to find a way to schedule your work week in a way that isn’t intrusive. If you have a huge exam coming up, you have to make the executive decision not to attend the weekly meeting.

I think that the reason why I am so passionate about being involved is all the opportunities that I have found since joining the organizations. But aside from that, it is the people and friends that I have made through them. I would have never met my roommates had I not been involved with Program Council or Greek Life. I couldn’t imagine a life without them as they have become a huge part of who I have grown to be as a campus leader. These organizations give you so much more than you could ever give them. They give you a lifetime of memories in exchange for an hour of your time each week. They give you the strongest friendships in exchange for signing up to volunteer for an event. They give you experience for any career you may go into in exchange for a weekend traveling to a National Conference.

With that being said, I encourage every single high school student, college student, college graduate, parent, employee to get involved with something that is meaningful to you. Get involved with some organization that you are passionate about. What you take away from being involved is so much greater than anything you could imagine.

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Why is #RelationshipGoals a Thing?

According to Urban Dictionary, “Relationship Goals” is defined as follows…

  1. “When two people are in a relationship and girls envy them, usually a celebrity couple or popular couple in high school”
  2. “A couple who are the best couple out there. They are the power couple. Everyone wants to be like them”
  3. “The most F’ed up way of saying “I want a relationship like theirs.””

At first, using the hashtag was pretty cute and sweet. It showed an admiration for a couple. It was paired with realistic goals. The issue that I have with the hashtag now is that the images or expectations its used for. Expensive gifts like make up and designer outfits left out on a bed with a sign “Put this on, I’ll pick you up at 8”. Why are people, majority of them being females, so materialistic in relationships today? Today you are in for a treat as I rant about why #RelationshipGoals is probably the worst hashtag to hit twitter today.

To start this blog, I began by google image searching relationship goals. These are some of the images I found on the first page of my google search. Let’s start with these.

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Okay, this #RelationshipGoal isn’t too terrible, I must say. This is one of the few I found in my search that was actually for the guy in the relationship. Most of the images you find online are from the guy in the relationship for the girl. This seems to be just a fun way to welcome your man home from work, not much money spent, not really materialistic, just having a Nerf gun war over who makes dinner.
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This is #RelationshipGoal what I have an issue with. While it is sweet for your man to go out and pick you a nice outfit and take you out to dinner, the chances of it actually happening? Very little. It’s causing girls to want their man to do this, which sets the expectations really high just to be (most likely) let down.

images-2#RelationshipGoal right? Every girl wants their man to buy them something in that little blue box from Tiffany & Co. Here’s the problem, it’s crazy expensive! Especially in today’s economy there isn’t much extra money hanging around to surprise your girl with a $300 necklace, or ring, or brand new car (as shown in the next photo)

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Sure being successful in life is something everyone wants. The thing that bothers me is just how materialistic people are. Money doesn’t buy happiness in a relationship. Material objects don’t make you fall in love, or stay in love. You don’t need to have fancy expensive cars to be a successful couple. To be a successful couple all you need to do is love and cherish each other.

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I know that this #RelationshipGoal is usually more directed towards the ladies. However, LADIES. You don’t need long lovey text messages from your man that tell you how he feels about you. You should already know his feelings towards you just by the way he looks at you or talks to you in person. A text message is basically meaningless if he doesn’t say or do it in person to prove it to you, anyone can say something over a text, it takes more to say it in person face to face.

text 1Alright, now this one just seems ridiculous to me. The chances of this exact conversation happening is extremely slim. Not to mention, just plan scripted and awkward? Anyone else feel that way?

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Here’s something that we definitely need to talk about. Calling your man “Daddy” has been a trend lately. A trend that I for one think is so disturbing and disgusting. And as the above picture shows, dangerous. There are a million other pet names to call your man, please find one that’s different than the person who helped create you.

The bottom line I’m trying to get across is that you shouldn’t expect these unrealistic situations to happen in your relationship. Guys can’t read your mind. The only #RelationshipGoals you should have are being in a relationship that makes you happy and being with someone who makes you into a better person. Sure you can be successful in life while being happy but that’s a life goal, not a #RelationshipGoal.

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C & C · Relationships · Uncategorized

Head over heels

As you guys have read about before (last month), my boyfriend and I have been dating for six months (today!). I wrote a blog last month about our relationship and our viewers seemed to love it, so I decided I’m now going to do monthly anniversary posts about relationships, specifically mine.

Two weekends ago, my boyfriend and I spent the day at an amusement park. The day started with myself getting home from work at twelve-thirty, in the morning. C was picking me up that same morning at seven thirty. With that being said, I woke up at six-thirty, only getting about five hours of sleep, to get ready and pack for the day. I showered, got dressed, packed a change of clothes, bathing suit and loaded up a cooler with snacks and drinks. I was all packed up and ready only to find out he meant to say he was going to be leaving his house at seven-thirty, which meant he was not getting to my house until around eight-thirty. Regardless of the extra hour I could have slept, I waited for him to get to my house. I was excited for the day but also nervous. If you guys don’t know already, I am not a huge fan of rollercoasters or rides that go upside down or anything of that sort. My favorite type of amusement park rides are the spinning ones.

Exactly on time, C pulled into my driveway, we packed up all of my things into his car and set off. He drove us all the way back to his house, only to find out that his family wasn’t ready yet. For an hour, we just hung around his house. We found a lost dog on his street, found the owner and got him back home safely. We cuddled up in his bedroom for a short time. We played with his dog and younger siblings. Finally, everyone was packed and ready. C and I got into his car, his family got into theirs and we were off, at last.

The drive to the amusement park was two and a half hours long. Which means that for two hours, driving through two other states, C and I got to talk and sing to the songs that came on the radio. You’d think that you’d kind of run out of things to talk about or have some type of awkward silence after a while. But with us, that never really happens. I was kind of nervous for this car ride because typically during long rides I tend to get a little car sick after a while. Fortunately, that day wasn’t the day.

After a two hour ride, we pulled into the amusement park parking lot. We made sure that we had everything we needed and walked inside. The first ride we went on were the swings. Next, a smaller wooden roller coaster. Roller coasters aren’t my cup of tea, but C loves them. I wanted to make him happy and proud by going on some of the rides that didn’t scare me so much. This little wooden ride was awful. It made me realize why I don’t love roller coasters again. Wayyyy too bumpy. I decided to give the bigger wooden roller coaster a shot. My god, you should have seen my face on the picture it takes. Pure terror. We followed the roller coaster up with a spinning ride. Which for the first time ever, made me feel sick to my stomach, probably because we sat in a seat that only went backwards. Or maybe it was dehydration in the ninety degree weather. Or because I was hungry. Needless to say, after that we needed a break and definitely needed to cool down from the heat.

We gathered our bathing suits, towels, flip-flops, applied sunscreen and made our way to the water slide part of the amusement park. This place was beyond crowded. All we wanted was a quick dip in the pool, but everything had lines that were never ending. After talking, we decided the lazy river was the best choice. We waited in line, floated around once when they made us get out. But we snuck our way past the lifeguards without them noticing. I made the choice to face my fear of waterslides and tackle it with him. I actually really enjoyed it at the end. After that, we adventured our way into the kiddie pool, with a little spot where all the adults were cooling down. We sat here talking for a while until our entire bodies were waterlogged. We then made our way to get our things. But got caught up in how warm the lake water was. We passed more time in the lake, just talking again. I think that this time at the water park was my favorite part of the day.

After that is when the trip got a little complicated. As I said before, I am terrified of roller coasters and upside down rides. But my boyfriend absolutely loves them. He really wanted me to go with him on the scary rides, but I couldn’t bring myself to do them. Not going on the rides ended up making C really upset, and slightly mad. Only because he just wants me to try the things I’ve never done before I decide that I don’t like them. Someday I hope that I’ll finally face my fears of roller coasters, but this day was not the day. Baby steps. While he went on the scary rides, I got to spend some time talking with his mother, little sister and little brother. I also finally had something to eat.

We ended off the day at the amusement park (well now it was night time) with a ride on the ferris wheel. We took a cheesy ferris wheel kissing picture. Bought some fried dough and fried oreos (we definitely should’ve just picked one to the other) and headed out the the parking lot for another two hour ride home. Again, the ride wasn’t awkward at any point, we talked, we laughed, we sang and danced to the radio. He started to get really tired and almost dozed off wile driving. It was then when I decided I wasn’t going to let him drive back home to his house, he was sleeping over.

We finally arrived safe and sound at my house. He got out of the car and laid on the grass. Literally that was how tired he was. I had to go over and walk him into the house as if he was drunk. He claims to not remember anything after this. However, these are the moments I wanted to talk about in this blog the most.

I walked  him inside, made the bed he was sleeping in, tucked him into the blankets and kissed him goodnight. Of course, he asked me to stay and cuddle but I knew that I couldn’t. I went into my room and changed into my pajamas. I ended up going back into the guest room where he was to attempt to plug in his phone. Instead he ended up convincing me to stay and cuddle for a while, so I did. There we were cuddled up in bed, with a cozy blanket, kissing each other delicately.

And in this moment, I realized that I am head over heels in love with him. In this moment, I saw how I want to spend the rest of my life. With him. 

After a few minutes, I made my way back to my room. I sat there thinking how thankful and lucky I am to have him. I thought about how wonderful of a boyfriend he is to me. I thought about the possibility of a future with him. After thinking about all these things, I started to cry, tears of happiness of course.

Because that is when it all hit me.

In this moment, I realized that I am head over heels in love with him. 

In this moment, I saw how I want to spend the rest of my life.

With him.